Memory vs. Forgetting

October 30, 2015 Beth Duncan

So many times in my life I’ve been told after something happens to me:

“Forget it!” “Put it behind you and go on with your life.”  “Don’t think about it!” But memories go deep.  Sooo, sooo deep—one on top of the other. Unfortunately, there really is no way to forget!  None!  Actually, we really only want to forget the bad memories—the ones with pain.    The good ones are those memories that keep us going, motivate and inspire us.  They help us through those tough times when we think we just can’t take it anymore!

What isn’t common knowledge is that not dealing with these negative memories (memories that cause you to feel pain/anger just thinking of them), still lay just beneath your conscious mind.  However, continuously pushing these memories below the surface of your conscious mind (the part of your mind that is aware of everyday thoughts and feelings) uses up a lot of your energy.  In severe cases (people with either a lot of negative memories or one really big negative memory such as sudden and unexpected death of someone important in your life, an assault to you or someone close to you (and there are all kinds of assaults), or as a child not feeling love from someone you think should not only love you, but love you unconditionally) the energy used to keep these negative memories out of your conscious mind can be strong enough to keep you feeling tired, keep you from being able to make good decisions to get on with your life, and/or keep you from healing to maintain or regain your health.

Having these feelings for extended periods of time does not always mean that you are run down, that your immune system needs boosting up, or that you lack the right vitamins!     It may be true that you need more sleep, more vitamins, and/or to take  some kind of stress management class.  However, it can’t hurt to consider the pressures on your mind—those in the present and those from your past!

Since they are in your subconscious, you wonder, How can I know what is in my subconscious mind?  Our minds give us clues.  Ever have a recurring dream? Ever go someplace, and for no reason at all you don’t like it?  Is there someone you don’t trust, but can’t figure out why?  Or just the opposite:  Is there someone you have a great desire to please, but don’t know why you feel this way?  How the mind works is so mysterious, and things (or clues) are not the same for everyone.  In addition, the clues are not always obvious.

The main idea of this blog is to help people understand that when we feel weak, run down, and fatigued that it may not be totally due to a physical condition.  It may be the result of an overload on your mind!  Sometimes people say that:  I take my vitamins, but they are not working. OR  I get enough sleep, but I’m still tired.  OR  I eat well.  But they still don’t feel right.  It could be due to both physical  AND mental reasons—a combination of factors!

When we are evaluating why we feel as we do, it is important to consider our mental and physical health.  Please remember, our bodies have many different connections!   Just as an aside note:  Each one of our teeth is affected by a part of the body.  That is why dentists are trained to spot over 500 diseases from conditions in the mouth.  Reflexologists can ease many illnesses by massaging specific areas on the feet.  Chiropractors can relieve stress in many parts of the body by adjusting the spine.  Not only are there different connections and cross-connections, there are different ways to promote healing.  And to make things more complex, a malfunction of the body can cause a mental malfunction!

Scientists have shown that the bodies of those people who have been diagnosed as bipolar, for example, cannot absorb a particular salt from the foods they eat.  That’s why it is rare for people who live in Salt Lake City, Utah to have this diagnosis.  People living in this area don’t have to extract this particular salt  from their food. The salt is in the water!

As I’ve said before, I do NOT advise that people stop taking their prescription medications or NOT to go to see their doctors.  I believe in working WITH my doctors to heal as quickly as possible, eliminating the need for prescription drugs as soon as possible.

I’m motivated to finding alternative ways of healing and causes of illness (dis-ease) because I suffer too many side effects from prescription medications.  However, even natural remedies can cause side effects!  Everyone’s body is different, unique.  What works for one person may not work for another  person.  And since our bodies are constantly changing (Every cell in the body has been replaced each seven years.  Before you ask—if the brain believes a cell to be damaged, the new cell will be replaced just as damaged!), what works for us one year may not work in another year.  More and more people are becoming allergic to something each year for the first time.  It is well known that our bodies cannot process or digest some chemicals (ie. pesticides, fungicides, herbicides) that are grown in our food supply.  There is a growing demand for organic foods (foods that are grown without pesticides, fungicides, and/or herbicides–chemicals that grow into the foods and cannot always be washed off.

There is good news:  Although there’s no way to forget memories, there is a  way to take away the pain of the bad memories.  Then they become just old memories that no longer have those automatic negative feelings attached to them – feeling those negative feelings whether we liked it or not; want to feel them or not!  This process is called Reframing—my next article.

Just a side note:  Dr. Sipe and Dr. Richie have a program called Energy Solution (different levels) that help people develop an exercise program for their specific levels to help them feel better physically.  Studies have shown that feeling better physically often helps people feel better psychologically.  The effects of the connection between mind and body works both ways!


4 Comments on “Memory vs. Forgetting

  1. We have all had memories that, at some point in time, we wished we could forget. Many newly published studies highlight the neurological and molecular mechanisms behind choosing to forget and suggest why disrupting this process may lead to unhealthy aging and serious mental disorders. It seems, that to some degree, one does find eternal sunshine in a spotless mind.

    1. The problem is that we don’t really forget. We just push things into the back of our minds, so as not to think about them.
      However, they are still there, repressed. We have to deal with the problem, reframe the situation in a way that is acceptable.
      First try to understand all aspects of the problem and understand why it is what it is. Only then can we let it go without
      pushing it into the deepest part of our minds to fester and cause us other problems.

  2. Fascinating points, Beth. Is this why memories are triggered unexpectantly? Why you “hear” the voices of your mother or father in certain situations or while you are making decisions?

    Are your suggestions from references or are these from your own experiences?
    I will keep reading!

    1. My suggestions are from my studies and from personal experience.
      Everything in our bodies has memory–even the cells throughout our bodies!

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