Giving Up My Power

January 14, 2017 Beth Duncan

My doctor has informed me that the diagnosis of the condition affecting my skin for the past two years has been confirmed by blood tests and skin biopsies.   Lupus.  And she informed me:  there is no cure, only treatment.  I’ve tried all sorts of home remedies to treat the discoloration, the dryness, the itching:  various creams, vinegar baths, oatmeal baths, olive oil massages, to name a few.  The discoloration and itching that is intensive enough to wake me in the middle of each night for the past two years continues.


When a doctor says “treatment, no cure” that means reliance on medication.  I cannot accept that!  Never could.  A doctor in my past once told me that the next time I had an office visit, if my blood pressure was still too high that she emphatically stated that I would start taking blood pressure medication.  The next time I had an office visit, my blood pressure was normal.  She did not ask how I accomplished having normalized my blood pressure, and never mentioned needed medication.  I changed doctors!


When my current doctor suggested a new once a week medication for his diagnosis of Type II diabetes, I told him that I would consider it.  In the meantime, I would try natural means of lowering my blood sugar.  He has seen that my blood sugar is normal some days, within normal limits other days.  He asked about what I was doing, then told me that he is no longer worried about my blood sugar.


I believe in homeostasis, which I’ll discuss in another blog.  It is the body’s ability to heal itself (within limitations) if it has the proper ingredients in the body.  And in most cases, it also requires the mindset that one’s body can, indeed, correct itself.  Many years ago I had severe abdominal pain when I had my menstrual periods.  I discovered that during the first day of a woman’s menstrual period she loses a lot of calcium.  Insufficient calcium can cause pain in muscle tissue.  The uterus is a muscle.  So, as an experiment, thinking that if that is what caused my pain the first day of my period, I’d take some Tums (They are nothing but calcium carbonate).  It worked.  My pain decreased substantially.  I did not need barbiturates or any other prescription drugs with all their side effects.

Note:  Not everyone’s menstrual pain is due to a calcium deficiency.  Everyone needs to learn what their own body requires, which can be very different even from a brother or sister from the same mother and father.


I will find a way to handle this new form of lupus.  The earliest appointment I could get with a known and liked rheumatologist is at the end of March!  Perhaps I will, like I did when I was first diagnosed with lupus (when it affected my lungs and I was given 2 years to live if I didn’t take the prescribed medication:  Year 1997).  I could not tolerate the prescribed medication, and found a way to reverse what was happening in my body without medication.  Using my mind to improve my body is a power that I refuse to give up. I’ve suffered from too many side effects too often.  I want to learn how to use more of the power I know that I have.

My Motto:  Where there’s a will, there’s a way!

12 Comments on “Giving Up My Power

  1. I would like to comment on two of your postings first the posting on biofeedback and the second on your reaction to learning the news that your skin problems were the result of lupus.
    Dr. Moss was also my faculty at Saybrook and my instructor on my pursuit of a Ph.D. In Health Psychology (a degree that is no longer offered but one that I am still in the process of completing. I completed certifications in mind-body medicine and in hypnosis, which has enabled me to been create and conduct Mind Body Medicine (mbm) workshops for individuals who have excess weight, have had difficulty in losing weight and in body acceptance.
    I certainly appreciate and echo your joy in the power of biofeedback. Although you don’t have to be connected to an electronic device to begin accessing the benefits of meditation, deep breathing, and other exercises to lower stress during a biofeedback session on your own body, but it sure does help! Seeing the timely response of your body to what you are doing is as convincing as anything else you can do. I have used biofeedback to treat chronic pain, high blood pressure, diabetes, a heart condition, dysautonomia (a faulty reaction of the autonomic system) and a heart condition. It has not cured all of these problem, but has decreased my negatively perceived responses to all of them and have reduced or deleted the response to most of them. The only thing I have not been able to gain any relief for is the chronic severe headaches (diagnosed as status migraineous) that were initiated as the result of a car accident 10 years ago. I continue to use many of the methods I learned from Don Moss and from Eric Willmarth (who is my dissertation chair). And have found the methods do work for other types of chronic pain I have.
    Maintain your enthusiasm about the mbm tools and techniques, and you will not only experience the benefits of self-healing yourself, but will bring this healing through your blog to others as well. Keep up the good work!

    1. I agree that one doesn’t have to be hooked up to machines to practice biofeedback.
      However, we are so conditioned to needing outside intervention to affect changes in
      our bodies, being hooked up to a machine even only one time can help to convince
      people that they do, in fact, have power themselves to make many kinds of changes
      in their bodies. And when you use your head (mind) to make changes, it is more
      difficult to control pain when it is in the head. Please keep me updated on ways
      to overcome this problem. I’m sure others will want to know. Thank you.

    1. My goal is to pass along information that people can use to help themselves heal.
      Thank you for your kind words.

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